May 24, 2016

The Ego Trap

It’s in the “Nine Satanic Statements” but deserves to be repeated here. Another cardinal sin. We must not pay homage to any of the sacred cows presented to us, including the roles we are expected to play ourselves. The only time self-deceit should be entered into is when it’s fun, and with awareness. But then, it’s not self-deceit!
The Nine Satanic Sins

Something I've said before, but I'll say again: reading Tarot professionally has challenges, and one of those challenges is clients who put you on a pedestal. In a Satanic sense, what's wrong with that? If you've got massive influence over a slave, why not use it however you see fit? Well, there are two problems with that: 
  1. You lose the ability to make mistakes. The margin for error shrinks to zero, and the moment you fail to live to your slave's impossible expectations, you'll immediately change from savior to Satan (and not in a good way, either.)
  2. You allow your slave to make you believe you can do more than is realistically possible within your level of stratification. 
Let me show you a few examples of what I'm talking about:

"Hey James, I wanted to leave a tip but I do not have funds right now in fiverr account and fiverr restricts my card. So I will come back when revenues emerge in my account. I feel bad for not doing that right now. I just want you to know that I really feel connected to your message. Sometimes words fail me, now I just can not tell you its' significance. It was great. Kindly make me your disciple. I tried learning cartomancy 10 years ago but somehow left that. Anyways, I do not need to learn since you are there to do that for me. Thank you so much again. Have a great life. XXXXXX"
On the surface, this is an ideal kind of master-slave relationship: a client who utterly adores you, and whose obsequious fawning is sweet honey for hungry bears. But dig a little deeper and you'll find that this kind of master-slave relationship is highly unstable and requires a massive investment of time and energy to maintain. This kind of slave is an addict, and you the Tarot reader are the drug. Maybe the addiction is fun and exciting at the start, but left unchecked the addict will always fall into deeper cycles of drug abuse. Don't you dare push that drug, because it'll become a toxic co-dependent relationship, and you'll regret it before the end. 

It's also a dangerous kind of relationship to nurture because those who fall into this pattern may at the start be your devoted servant, but by the end they nearly always become your worst enemy for no other reason than that you failed to live up to their impossibly high expectations. Be exceedingly cautious when dealing with these kinds of clients. Do not accept the pedestal they earnestly give you. When the client's self-imposed illusion fades - and it always does - the imposition of reality is a messy and potentially dangerous conflict, especially for professional Tarot readers whose livelihood depends on maintaining a powerful reputation and a deep network of inter-connected clients. In a way, being a professional Tarot reader isn't like building a house of cards: if you fall for this ego trap, everything you've built can come crashing down faster than you know.

Another kind of ego trap is the temptation to play doctor. For example:

whats happening with my life my journey. is XXX coming back or finding someone else. Whats it say about love life. my health and my families health I’m scared. you said a lot thats come true so please tell me anything and everything you can i’ll pay more. money wise will i be able to work and look after my self. wedding on off baby yes or no. or am i doing right by wanting to end it.can you see a suicide will i be better
The temptation to play doctor - or at least to play the role of a psycho-analyst - is a popular temptation for Tarot readers because at the highest levels of accomplishment a Tarot reading can feel very similar to a counseling session. The rule of thumb that must be observed in a professional setting is this: you can't help people who can't help themselves. Unless you the Tarot reader are also a trained, certified counselor, there's absolutely nothing you can do to help self-destructive and suicidal clients that doesn't involve you taking responsibility for their decisions.

The amount of trust and confidence clients frequently put into the abilities of their readers is tremendous, and to be a successful reader you must have a healthy ego and strong respect for your limitations. It's not only irresponsible for a Tarot reader to play doctor to clients who need professional help, but it's also illegal. Tarot readers may not be mandated reporters under law, but if they want to avoid criminal or civil suits brought by the families of such clients, then it's in their best interest to consider themselves as such. If you're reading this and you're a Tarot reader, don't fool yourself into thinking you're anything other than what you are. To exceed your level of stratification and to commit the sins of self-deceit and pretentiousness by imagining that you're capable of handling these clients is a grave error. In such a scenario, the only response you can make is the following:

Hi, XXX; I hope this message find syou well. I'm contacting you because you've requested work that's not offered in this gig, specifically with regards to your question about your own health and the health of other family members, and also the question about harming yourself. I sincerely apologize, but I'm not qualified to provide the help you need and I must insist that you go directly to the nearest hospital. If you don't feel that you can do such a thing right now, then I must insist that you contact a suicide hotline. if you live in the USA, you can call this number: 1 (800) 273-8255 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Hours: 24 hours, 7 days a week Languages: English Spanish Website: If you live outside the USA, please Google the phrase "suicide hotline COUNTRY" and replace "COUNTRY" with your present country of residence. I wish you the best, but what you're asking me outside my experience and I'm required by law to insist that you seek immediate help.
No matter what you think about an individual's right to euthanasia and elective suicide, we don't live in world of what-ought-to-be, but what-is, and in this world it's extremely illegal to encourage, advise, assist, or fail to report a suicide. Don't fall for the ego trap of thinking you can somehow provide the same services provided by healthcare professionals who've spent at least a decade of their lives in school and gone before multiple peer review boards to gain the experience necessary to handle these kinds of situations. Ignore this advice at your peril.

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